Opinions are like noses...

…everyone has one.

And most people should keep ‘em to themselves.

I was recently bombarded by a slew of Facebook emails notifying me of a battle that was taking place on my status: 

Kristen Kinzer can't figure out how David Caldwell figured out the flipping passcode to my phone! I'm so excited for this. Now there's no way to keep him off my Facebook! YAYAYAYAYAY!

The more attacking opinions were all from people who I have known for quite some time (all through church) but that I don’t keep in that great of touch with.  They were, however, more than willing to comment.  Here are some paraphrased excerpts:

1.    Find a guy who respects you and shows it rather than a guy who doesn’t respect you and shows it

a.    This particular comment received several “likes”

2.    David’s posts on Kristen’s wall are middle school-tastic!

3.    David should get on the high road

The other side basically said:

1.    It’s clearly a joke

2.    Kristen messes with David’s Facebook also

3.    Self-righteous people need to cool it

4.    People shouldn’t tell David and Kristen how to have a relationship – people doing that is what ruins a healthy relationship

At this point, I stepped in with a lengthy comment explaining that it wasn’t really anyone’s business who I date (especially since none of these more judgmental people have even met him) and that I obviously don’t have a real issue with his stealing my phone.  I mentioned that David is a choice and that I’m not stupid enough to be in a bad relationship.  I went on to say that each person commenting on the thread is also a choice and choose to be their friend.  I mentioned that everyone on the thread was guilty of being rude to people I know that they don’t and that is what is truly disrespectful and juvenile.

From there, someone else chimed in with the fact that they “knew a better Kekky than that.”  Which is asinine as none of the negativity on the thread was ME.  As a matter of fact some of the harsh judgment came from someone I know this commenter respects.  She was then responded to and it turned into a mild argument which she immediately backed out of based on age.

I know these are all very strong words because the people who left these comments all know who they are and if you’d really like to know who left them, you could probably access my Facebook.  But you know what, I don’t care.  If you want to judge me, go for it.  I’m posting this for the general public to learn how retarded trolling and judging is.

So, here’s the deal.  If a person has an opinion on something they know little-to-nothing about, they should keep it to themselves or, at the very least, keep it off a public forum.  If they must post it in a public forum (which, let’s face it, is going to happen), they should have the ability to keep it nice and non-judgmental and maybe even try some love (especially those “loving” Christians). 

Treating people poorly just because you have the ability to troll around on the internet is not taking the high road.  What’s funnier – the people throwing judgment are all Christians who claim to “share Christ’s love” by being loving.  And they just told someone they “care” about (me) that she has a crappy boyfriend (who they don’t know and who is actually pretty damn amazing).  What they did is what I have written about on here before – they made “Christians” look mean, stupid and judgey which is why so many people I know what even darken the doorstep of a church and want to have nothing to do with religion.  And, again, they did it all behind an attitude that is clearly based on “religion.”

The non-judgey comments and ones who stood up for me are people who do not claim to be religious, don’t attend church and don’t treat people like they aren’t capable of making their own choices, having their own relationships, etc.  And they were not rude – even after being attacked.  Their comments were pointed and classy.  Well, not always classy, but certainly not blatantly judgmental and rude.

I do have to give props to one commenter who did pass judgment as she was responsible and respectful enough to send me a PRIVATE message explaining why she reacted as she did and to apologize for her attitude.

Point is, everyone does have an opinion (a shocking number of people have opinions about everything I do).  And most of these people need to learn how to share their opinion in a non-offensive way and without treating people poorly.  And if you’re going to do it where I can read it (or you have the audacity to throw me into the middle of petty, immature arguments based on things you know nothing about), you sure as hell better be ready to be written up and have the general world see the fact that you have acted so poorly.