Not so with me.
I'm going to touch especially on "mean" today and would like all the single ladies (yeah, I went there) to think on this. I have three stories. Gonna tell em in the extremely short version:
- My friend was seeing a girl, and hooking up with her on occasion. They were definitely headed towards a relationship. One day, she said, "We should talk." Turns out she was seeing more than one guy (only ever hooking up with him, though) and chose to get "serious" with another one.
- My other friend has had some mild to not-so-mild feelings for this girl off and on for years. She's led him on, then dropped him, led him and dropped him over and over. He did everything for her. Was there for her all the time, the list goes on... And who knows why?
- Yet another friend was dating a religious girl (you know the story is already gonna get ugly). He did everything - went to communion classes and church with her, obeyed ridiculous curfew rules - just to be with her. She initiated a physical relationship, but acted like ever LOOKING at a girl was a HUGE sin. He's smart - he couldn't grasp how their sleeping together was any worse than his looking at someone.
Girl number two: Seriously, we're not 12. Don't do the lead-on thing. That's just cruel. You get this guy attached to drop him and get him attached again. Which means you're just looking for ways to hurt people. And should probably be shot. And this part where you're using the guy? Yeah... Something worse than shot should happen to you.
Girl number three: K, you religious psychos. There's no nice way of putting it. But if you're gonna date and be "unequally yoked," you probably need a quick reality check. They aren't going to live up to your religious, over-legalized standards. 'Cause they don't care. So don't get the guy doing everything for you, being your arm candy, and making it clear they're a puppy dog on a leash unless you're willing to go the whole distance with that and deal with the fact that the average guy isn't turned OFF by a strip club.
That's my point for today. I've had way too many guys need to dump on someone about who horrible bitches do to 'em. And it's uncool. It needs to stop. Clearly, this isn't the only way women screw up and screw with men, but these are three recent examples and all three of these women need someone to smack 'em so hard they don't know what hit 'em.
So that's just the mean ones. I'll probably get to drama-lovers and fickle-bitching sometime this week.
Claimed to not remember my birthday. Or middle name. I don't remember which. Could have been both.
ReplyDeleteYelled "fuck you" at me in the middle of a huge party at his house. I'm talking like 100 plus people. Took me out the next day for an "I'm so sorry" meal. I ended up paying.
I lost my snake. His last sight before going to work was me curling up into a ball and just bawling on the kitchen floor while looking for him. When he got home, the first thing he does is: go hang out with our roommates.
Didn't really bother giving me more than a few minutes a day. As soon as we break up, another bitch comes along and he's reading the entire Twilight series for her.
We got in a bit of a mess. A mess that cost me $400. I said just buy me a sandwich afterwards, in my attempt to lighten the mood. He blatantly said he couldn't afford it. The day of my operation, he went with me hungover because he had enough money to go to the bar with his buddies the night before.
I went straight home after said operation. He finally decided to get in touch with me and ask me how I was doing a week later.
He is telling me how awesome he is for spending coincidentally $400 to support a local art show.
This is Laura. LOL.
I guess what I'm trying to say is....shit has no gender.
And ends don't have to justify means. I know several kickass women. But to focus on their opposites and not praise them themselves has the very precarious tendency to lead women a social and feminist step backwards. Especially when examined by other women :-p
Oh. And he's apologized for all of this behavior. Tenfold. I accepted the apology.
ReplyDeleteBut I also asked what took him 3 years to give said apology. He said he's "been busy."
This apology also coincidentally comes about a week after he breaks up with someone else.
Admit it... you have to be into drama somewhat and gossiping if you are writing about it and sharing it with everyone else!
ReplyDeleteAssuming the two Anonymouses are not the same:
ReplyDeleteLaura (Anonymous 1): You're totes right. Definitely knows no gender. I don't even have the balls to POST what my "ex" did to me... LOL. I definitely know some kickass women myself - you being one of them. :) And you're right about takin a step back. LOL. I am one of those pessimists who has more of a tendency to call shits out and not really say anything to the awesome ones. Ya know what I mean? I'm a "the cup is half empty" type when it comes to things like this.
Anonymous 2: You're clearly a troll who should have actually READ the post. Hiding behind a cloak that makes it so you don't have to say who you are while also accusing people of things they haven't said is absolutely juvenile and responding to you is a waste of time. There is CLEARLY a difference between LIKING drama/gossiping and telling people to knock it the fuck off. That said, you should knock it the fuck off.