Disclaimer: The entirety of this post is just me talking. If you're dumb and decide to take it personally, do it. But, honestly, if you do that, more than likely you are someone I could be saying the following about.
I talk a lot. A LOT, according to my "sweet" boyfriend... And somehow I never think of much to WRITE. That said, I've been thinking about something for a few days and seem to finally have something I may as well write about.
Lately, I've realized how I can't help people. That sounds like something I should know without having to realize...
Long story short, a few people in my life have been causing drama. Not real drama. Attention-seeking drama. Where they talk incessantly about how many horrible things happen to them and how this and that never goes right and how they're always the real victim in every possible way they can come up with.
That said, normally they aren't.
Normally they are causing some level of drama to get some kind of response. And they thrive on the fact that they're getting a response. It doesn't matter if it's positive or negative. They're just stoked that someone is giving them the time of day.
It is beyond frustrating.
How does this tie in to me realizing I can't help everyone? Simple: when people pull this crap with me, I don't respond positively or negatively. I try to help them see how x, y, and z are their fault and how they aren't a "victim." They're an idiot. And THEN I get frustrated because I can't actually help them see how they'll be happier people if they stop being unhappy and causing the problems themselves.
However, if there is legit drama in someone's life, I have no problem helpin 'em out. I have no problem sitting down with you and talking to you about what's really going on. Example: A good friend of mine (more of a sister) is dealing with a "break up." I call it a "break up" because she was beaten up by her boyfriend and so she got rid of him. It's more than a break up is my point. Anyhow, I spend lots of time on the phone with her just chatting about what's going on. And that's not just attention-seeking. That's actually dealing with drama. Granted, she should probably seek better help than little ol' me, but that's completely different than, "I'm upset because this person said this and now I feel like I should commit suicide."
So, sorry if I belittle problems, but I've really started realizing that more often than not, people who are seeking drama don't care what type of response they get. So I'm gonna stop responding. I'm gonna go right ahead and say things like, "I'm not gonna talk to you about this."
My life's gonna be so easy if I actually do that....
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