Pretty sure everyone I know is either married or getting married within the next year (or maybe two). I'm in a wedding on Sunday and am in one this summer. And am going to TONS of them this year. I was invited to over 30 weddings in 2009. It's sick. I don't like it.
My friend Klent. He's a strange kid to say the least. He's awesome and I'm SO glad he's in my life. But really... He's insane. He's 19(ish). He's sooo angry that he's not married. Again, he's around 19 and crazy.
Every time I say anything about a wedding, he says, "A ring is a hole within itself." Did I mention that Klent is insane?
So, we quite regularly talk about what this could possibly mean. Almost every time I talk to him, we talk about the meaning of this phrase. I'm pretty sure that it has no true, good, real, intense meaning. But it struck Klent (God knows why). Klent and I were Facebook chatting about this last night when I told him I can't hang out this weekend because a wedding is eating my life.
He said, "Well, a ring is a hole within itself."
I almost signed off right then. Ok, not really. But, still. It was probably our third time talking about it. He said, "I bet it just means that a ring is a hole."
"Yeah, ok, Klent."
I was in a wedding a couple days after Klent and my last conversation about rings. When I was on my way to the wedding rehearsal, I was thinking about rings being holes within themselves. And it dawned on me.
Since marriage only works 50% of the time, the "hole" is really symbolic of the hole in the concept and idea of marriage. Meaning - that since marriage obviously doesn't really work, there is a hole in the argument that it does and every wedding is an argument for marriage. Let me explain this better.
Pastors, ministers, preachers, whatever you wanna call 'em - they are always talking about how he ring symbolizes how the love a couple has for each other never ends. It symbolizes how the couple will love each other for eternity.
And the ring is a hole (within itself). It's almost impossible. Few couples last for "eternity" (even if that only means "until death"). Their love is not boundless. In the sense that the symbolism of the ring is arguing for something that is not totally possible. The meaning of the symbolism is flawed. So a ring really is a hole within itself.
Marriage sucks. And Klent is awesome.
That's all I have to say.
I'm 21! and i dont want to get married i just hate everyone that is!
ReplyDeleteUm... Klent... Why is your name Ness?!?
ReplyDeleteOK, so I'm still not sure I get the whole ring symbolism here but I will say this. I am one of the ones who does want to get married but don't worry, I won't invite you to yet another wedding in 2010 - I'm not sure if I'll ever get married.
ReplyDeleteYou'll get married. And thanks for not getting married in 2010. But I best be invited. :) I love you!
ReplyDeletebecause I'm Agent Ness Pyrosa, coolness extraordinaire.
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