Mean people suck.

"When someone is so mean, cruel and vindictive on the outside, it means they're a miserable person on the inside! It's a choice to remain this way! We all have a choice..."

A friend of mine posted that on Facebook.  I have to agree... In my day, I've dealt with my share of horrible people.  I don't mean killers or murderers, rapists or thieves.  I mean people who treat others horribly for no reason.

I was talking to another friend who is dealing with a "friend" of her's (we'll call the friend Millie).  Millie is a "horrible" person.  She's rude to people, wants to rule people, gossips about people, lies about people and lies about herself to make herself look better.  She hates when her boyfriend even talks to other females - regardless of their relationship.  A great person, am I right?  This is what she said about it:

"I feel a lot of pity for her.  How do such jealous people live?  She is a sad, sorry excuse for a person."

These two "quotes" go hand-in-hand as far as I'm concerned.  It's so sad when you see someone who talks horribly about people, lies, and it's all based on insecurity and selfishness.  Deep down, they know it's about them, not the people they're being rude to and about (I can't figure out how to say that without ending the sentence in a preposition... which I've been told not to do since around 3rd grade...).  Which leads me to another quote (which I heard on the TV the other day... Look it up if you get too curious and decide to judge where I learned it:

"Don't hate your enemies.  Pity them."

Granted, people who talk shit about you don't have to become your enemy.  But let's face it, you're not gonna like them.  You're not even likely to be excited to tolerate their existence and be civil with them.  The Bible would disagree with the "Pity them," part of that quote.  God would tell you to love them.  As you love yourself, even.  That's not exactly something that seems fun or even easy.  Then again, the Bible encourages you to "heap coals on their heads" by being nice to them.  Which goes along with, "Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer."  

That said, when mean people are horrible to you (or about you), your best option is to be super sweet to the sucker.  They're evil, so being kind is a good thing.  Remember it's going to heap coals on their head.  They're already miserable, too - clearly.  Mean people suck and they take out their own insecurities on people who intimidate them.  So make 'em even more upset by being nice to them - yes, easier said than done.  But, realistically you're gonna grind their already pathetic hearts into nothing and then they'll cry themselves to sleep every night and hopefully stop being horrible people...

I doubt it'll actually happen.  But that has more to do with the fact that I wouldn't be able to treat someone all that nicely after they were horrible to me... So, friend, you know who you are.  Be nice to Millie.  Maybe she'll cry herself to sleep and realize she needs not be a horrible person.